What’s the deal with self doubt? I hear this or something similar to this all the time, because let’s face it self doubt sucks. While it is totally normal, yes self doubt is normal, it does often stop us dead in our tracks. Now I am a firm believer that with information and mindset work you can learn to deal with self doubt and conquer it. But in order to do that you first have to know where self doubt comes from. In my opinion self doubt comes from three main things; low self esteem, seeking external validation, and dealing with comparison. This trifecta teams up to make self doubt so much bigger than it often needs to be. But when you break self doubt into its components, you are able to see where the doubt is coming from, and how to handle it.
- low self esteem: Low self esteem is often rooted in fear, more specifically we tend to be scared and not take action. But taking action grows confidence. I like to think of it like a triangle with fear, action, and confidence each in their own corner. The only way you move from the fear corner of the triangle is by taking action, which leads to confidence.
- seeking external validation: Seeking validation is huge in our society and especially on social media. We often put ourselves in a place where we need someone else to approve or our life and without them we are left unsure of our worth. We seek external validation to justify what we do, but we need to be focused on creating internal validation to justify our own actions. Internal validation is what makes you value your own beliefs, opinions, and selves.
- dealing with comparison: You have to take note of the comparisonitis, and recognize why you are comparing yourself to others and release that without judgement. Because comparison solves nothing.
The biggest thing I can tell you if you are struggling with self doubt is two fold, number one remember that it is totally normal to feel self doubt, and number two that the only way to overcome self doubt is to start to recognize where it is from. If you can recognize where the self doubt is coming from, it will make it easier to combat it. I truly hope that these tips and tricks have helped, and if you are wanting more of these feel free to join my Facebook Group Fully Empowered Female Badasses.