I want to preface this post by saying that it may be emotional and/or unpleasant for many to read, but that is why I think it is important to talk about. Toxic and abusive relationships are nothing to be ashamed of; it is not your fault despite what your significant other may tell you, and you do deserve better. I hope that anyone in a relationship, and that doesn’t mean just romantic, will consider these relationship red flags, and recognize if/when these problem arise in their relationships. If any of these red flags apply to you or you are in a relationship that isn’t healthy I want you to know that you are worth so much more than you are getting right now. You are worth nothing short of an incredible relationship, now I am not saying perfect because people aren’t perfect, but you do deserve a healthy and happy relationship. Please hear me when I say that, especially in romantic relationships, that the behavior and toxicity of your partner is not your fault. If you are experiencing any of these red flags in your relationship I urge you to take a long hard look at them, and determine if they really are indeed signs of a problematic relationship. If you feel that you are in an unhealthy relationship you are not stuck, you do have the choice to leave if that is what you feel is best for you. If you are scared, worried, or unsure of how to remove yourself from the situation there are resources out there to help you including National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and The National Domestic Violence Hotline website or there telephone hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Furthermore if you believe that someone you love is in danger or an unhealthy relationship there are ways that you can help them, so do not hesitate to check out resources such as 15 Ways To Help A Friend and How To Help A Friend Leave.
- Controlling behavior
- Intense jealousy
- Bullying comments- emotional and verbal abuse
- Physical abuse
- Tries to separate you from friends/family
- Trust issues
- Communication issues
- Emotions change on a dime
- Won’t see fault in their behavior/blame you for everything
- Behavior in public is different than private
Again I want you to know that nothing happening to you is your fault, and you are able to get out.