Dealing with any kind of loss is hard, but unfortunately it is often so much harder during the holidays, when we are supposed to be spending time with the people that we love and care about. Unfortunately I am no stranger to loss, and especially dealing with loss around the holidays, so I completely understand how difficult it can be to try and deal with. Because I know how hard it can be, and we are right in the middle of the thick of holiday season, I wanted to share with you some of the things I have learned about dealing with loss during this time of the year.
It May Be Harder
It may be harder than usual this time of year because you will be constantly reminded of the person that isn’t there anymore. This is especially true if the loss is recent because everything will still feel very fresh.
Don’t and force yourself to not feel the loss or sadness, or even anger. I cannot stress this enough. Unfortunately you just have to face and feel your feelings because they aren’t going to go away, and trying to push them down is not only unhealthy, but can make them even worse and harder to deal with.
Won’t Stay This Way
One of the things I always tell people is that they have to recognize that it will not always feel this bad. Yes it will always hurt, I am not going to lie to you, because loss sucks. But here is the thing it does get easier to handle with time, and you have to remind yourself that this time of the year is just harder in general, and it won’t always feel this strong.
Losing anyone you love and care about it hard regardless of the time of year, but dealing with loss around the holidays can be even harder to handle. I want you to know that you are not alone, and it is completely ok to not be ok because after all you lost someone you loved, and there is nothing easy about that. If these reminders help you out I would love to know, and if you are struggling with a loss this holiday season just know I am always here if you need to reach out to someone.