Oh comparison you pesky thief of joy. We all deal with it or have dealt with it in the past, and if I can be frank it sucks. But regardless of how much we know comparing ourselves to others doesn’t help, unfortunately we often can’t help ourselves because as a society we have grown so accustomed to comparing ourselves to others that it often happens completely by accident. Now I am the first one to admit that I have struggled with comparisonitis, especially as a coach, entrepreneur, blogger, and women in general comparison has reared its ugly head for me a time or two for sure. Having said that I wanted to take today to address how to deal with the comparison, and where it comes from, so the next time the comparison gremlin tempts you, you know it and can combat it.
The first thing I want you to know is that comparison is totally normal. We all do it, so if it is something that you are struggling with don’t beat yourself up about it because as humans it is perfectly natural to compare ourselves to others, and we all have to work through it. Secondly as women I think comparison is something we struggle with even more because for some reason society decided it was a good idea to teach women to compare themselves to others, as a way to validate ourselves. WRONG!! I cannot stress enough how wrong this is, and how much bullshit is really is.
Comparison is rooted in fear and low self confidence or belief in ourselves. It plays on our fears, need for validation, and our desires. And we have to remember that comparison solves nothing. All it does is cause more problems and stress, which you don’t need in your life. If you are struggling with comparing yourself to others I urge you to start taking note of what you let into your life. In this day and age with social media as prevalent as it is we often put ourselves into a position of comparison, so if you find this happening to you try removing things from your life that trigger your comparisonitis. For example maybe take a social media break if you find yourself spending way too much time comparing yourself to people on Instagram.
If you are struggling with comparison I want you to know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, we all struggle with it. The key is remembering that you are enough just the way you are, and that comparing yourself to someone else solves nothing. In fact it only leads to low self esteem and a constant need for external validation, none of which we want in life. So the next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else ask yourself why you are doing it, take a good hard look at what you are letting into your life, and remember that you are perfect just the way you are.