For those of you that are new here on the good ole’ blog, I am a Women’s Freedom and Lifestyle Coach. Essentially wha that fancy pants term means is that I help women up level their mindset and confidence so that they can show up in and design the life of their dreams, all while achieving their goals. Whew is that a mouthful sometimes. But in all seriousness I absolutely love what I do, heck if I didn’t I wouldn’t still be doing it everyday. But having said all that there are definitely some highs and lows to being a coach, and many lessons I have learned along the way. But for today I wanted to talk about four of the most important lessons I learned in my first six months coaching.
Number 1: Starting a business is hard. I mean HARD! There are long nights, countless hours of lost sleep, struggles trying to figure out how to actually run and better yet legally start a business. I am by no means saying don’t start a business, in fact quite the opposite actually. I think starting a business teaches you something about yourself that a normal or traditional job atmosphere wouldn’t. I have learned a tenacity and strength I didn’t know I had. I have learned that passion truly does make the hard times easier, and that there are never enough cups of coffee in the day for an entrepreneur.
Number 2: Whew this one was a hard pill for me to swallow, and that’s that you won’t get your first client right away. Now you pay get some pro-bono clients early on, but your first paying client may take months. Yes I said months. I know scary. But I want to be honest with you because I know that some of you reading this want to become coaches, and I want you to know the truth. It took me months to get my first paying client, and I even worked with a business coach, but that is a whole nother story. The point is that coaching is like any business in that success does not happen overnight, so don’t stress if you see someone else farther ahead of you because everyone has to start somewhere.
Number 3: This is probably the thing I don’t think most new coaches think about, and that is that you will get attached to your clients and there results. But and I emphasize this you have to try your best to compartmentalize and not become too attached to their outcome, because if you do it will kill you. And by that I mean it will blur the boundaries of the coach client relationship in a way that is truly unhealthy. Having said that we are all people, and we care, so remember that it is ok to care.
Number 4: Last but certainly not least, is probably the most important thing I have learned since becoming a coach, and that’s that you have to have a bigger why behind what you are doing. If you have been around the blog or in my free Facebook Group Fully Empowered Female Badasses then you know I talk a lot about having a bigger why in your life, and it your business it is no different. You have to have a bigger reason behind what you are doing other than just money, if you want to succeed. Because the truth is that there are going to be hard times, and it is going to be that bigger why that gets you through them. It is going to push you, hold you accountable, and remind you why it is you are doing this thing in the first place.
The point I am trying to make is that I have learned a lot since I started coaching, and even more probably in the first six months. I have learned that running a business is hard, that it’s ok for business to go slow, and for you not to get your first client right away. I have also learned that you will get attached to your clients, but that you should still keep boundaries in place. And lastly I have learned the importance of having a bigger why in your life and business. Whether you are a coach or not I would love to know what lessons you have learned over the past six months, and feel free to let me know in the comments of by dm-ing me on Instagram @aseriesofsundays.